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- January 22, 2011 by myinnielife
- Falling In Love
I feel like I "fall in love" everyday. I use that term loosely and I probably fall in lust. There are a lot of nice looking guys that I see I wonder what it would be like to kiss or have sex with them. This is more about fantasy than reality.
I have genuinely only been in love once. Sadly, this man was not the type of man any woman should be with. He had been physically and verbally abusive in his previous relationships (he was verbally abusive to me) and he seemed to have a deep hatred for women. There were so many signs that this was someone that I shouldn't get involved with yet I gave my heart to him. It was a foolish decision and for so long I've felt ashamed of this fact. All I can say is that I had very low self-esteem at that time. I was also following a prescripted version of what others said my life should be like. According to them, I should have been happily coupled and I wasn't happy at all.
Now I date with intelligence. When I'm dating someone, I don't automatically envision myself with this person as a couple or in a long-term relationship. I take things slow and I get to know them. I also pay attention to any red flags and I listen to my intuition. I'm confident the next time I fall in love, it will be with someone who is worthy of my heart.