That depends on whom I'm talking to. If I'm talking to a dear friend where there's mutual trust then I'd tell it like it is but with kindness and love. One can still be honest with kindness. You don't have to be brutally honest and hurt someones feelings. Compassion and kindness should always be the guiding force. I might hold my tongue where there's people whom I do not know involved, or if I don't know the whole story. Discretion is indeed an important watch word.