• March 27, 2009 by jess
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    • I demand a Baby Mama.

    • My body can't carry babies and I've yet to fulfill my dream of fixing the US adoption system. So, I demand the perfect woman to be the oven for my bun.

      Most people hear this and cringe. But really, how many times have you heard a man say he's found the woman he wants to carry his children? (the answer, btw, is a lot. At least in my experience)


      The Perfect Baby Mama


      I demand a woman who LOVES being pregnant (trust me, they're out there). She's overly maternal, with three of four children of her own (these types usually don't want to raise any more). She loves babies, naturally.



      She wants to be a surrogate for two reasons:


      1) She recognizes her ability to carry a baby to term healthily is a gift and wants to share.


      2) She wants to stay at home with her children and wouldn't mind the secondary income.



      I demand a woman who is as stable as can be expected. She's happy and fulfilled. She has a good marriage and strong support system.



      I demand a woman who's with the times. She's technologically advanced enough not to be offended that I'll rarely call her but will keep regular contact with AIM and email.



      I demand a woman that's spiritual, but won't try to save my soul every Sunday.



      I demand a woman who is humbled by modern medicine. She recognizes that the best way to proceed with this unconventional birthing is to take advantage of the modern advances available to her.



      I demand a woman I can trust and who will trust me. (no scamming like Amy Poehler or shacking up with my husband a la Desperate Housewives, please)



      Why are these demands unreasonable? Well for one, most people reading this will think I'm a loon. "Why won't she adopt a child already out in the world?", they'll say. And they'll be in the majority as far as opinions go. For the record, I want both. And this is my unreasonable demand list not yours, so I get what I want!



      These demands also unreasonable because, believe it or not, finding a woman with all these qualities is extremely difficult! So I feel for the men out there searching for that mate. It's really very similar. I'm looking for another mate! Sure, I don't have to live with them, but they and their family will most likely be a part of the lives of my husband and I as well as our future children.



      Lastly, as with most unreasonable demands, mine is extremely selfish. I know it and will most likely not find what I want. But that doesn't stop me from wishing for that perfect baby mama.



      **edited so I could add paragraph spacing via html tags (something I know very little about...just enough to be dangerous!)


       
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    jess said:
    Eh, I don't like how my text formatted. Maybe I should just follow the prompt and answer literally next time ;-)
    posted over 2 years ago
    shellen said:
    Sorry about that Jess. We'll work on it. Also, I truly hope you receive what sounds to me like a completely *reasonable* demand.
    posted over 2 years ago
    Alana said:
    Okay......I have to ask. Is this also how you would describe yourself? Because I swear you could be my AIM twin. ;)As far as having babies.....this shipped has sailed a long time ago, with two muppet babies on board.If you don't mind, what state/city are you in?
    posted over 2 years ago
    colorfuljacksons said:
    Aaawwww. I am so sorry that the two I carried nearly killed me, or I'd consider doing this for you or someone. I seriously considered it once. I don't want anymore of my own and I've surgically finalized that, but I did love a LOT about having a baby- just not the almost dying part and recovery and all that. If it were physically easy for me to do, I'd do it for the right person. There are women out there who would. Hmmmm. Where to find them? Think. Think. I don't think I know anyone who is anything like myself. I do, however know someone who donates eggs on a regular basis. I wonder....
    posted over 2 years ago
    scrappyhare said:
    I love being pregnant!! Wish I could be pregnant all the time, without the hassle of having to have, you know, KIDS. But I have health issues, so it's probably not a good idea for me to be a surrogate. Good luck though, hope your dream comes true some day!
    posted over 2 years ago
    jess said:
    It's crazy how many women suffer health problems from such a 'natural' occurrence (I'm being sarcastic about 'natural' because most people do not think of giving birth as dangerous. But there are a lot of things that can go wrong!). Alana, yes, I'm one of those who has more cell phone talking minutes rolled-over than she has time left in life. My data-usage, however, is through the roof! I live in St. Augustine, FL.
    posted over 2 years ago
    allie said:
    Great post! I hope you find the girl you deserve!
    posted over 2 years ago
    deletethisstewart said:
    funny, people think i'm crazy because i would love to give someone this gift someday. i hope you find this woman. you're right, they're out there!
    posted over 2 years ago

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