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  • When has something that seemed bad at first actually turned out to be good? See all answers
    • of existential crises (more properly, crisis) and futile wishes (read, "wish-ees for the rhyme; or "wish-iss"parenthetically)
    • With so many example of the reverse, I'm struggling to think of a direct answer to the prompt.

      Leaving graduate school (English) at the University of Iowa. I dropped out, was lost, faced an existential crisis (or continued to face the same ongoing existential crisis), then found my first teaching job back in my home state of Florida (which didn't really end said existential crisis; which further makes me wonder why I even bring up the obvious). While enjoing teaching, I finished a masters degree in education three years later.

      Coffee, beer, and jeans. The taste of the first two was not quickly appreciated. By high school, I was drinking my coffee black; and by my mid-twenties I was finally able to appreciate beer the way I appreciate wine and liquor. Jeans took about as long as beer. Denim was always an irritating material. I didn't like the way it felt, I didn't like the way it looked. I wore slacks throughout high school and college. Now it is rare that I don't slip into some jeans when I get home from work. Or when I hang out with friends.

      As you can tell, I was a party animal in high school and college (no beer and only wore slacks!). (And I won't tell you of all the other things my slacks and I were doing.)

      And I wish more than anything that I could say separating from my wife would fit into this category. That it would not just open up the obvious new possibilities, but better possibilities. Or that isolation (I am blessed with friends and strangers whom I see as often as possible, but it does little to help the feeling that returns as soon as I am alone again) and emotional distance (a best friend calls me a zombie; but I am not one) might be acquired tastes. Yes, I wish I could say the separation was a suitable answer to this prompt. I think I would sleep better at night.

       
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  • Comments

    jess said:
    So you only think your break-up was good for you if you find someone else? Maybe it was just good for YOU. And the finding someone else thing is separate.
    posted over 3 years ago
    dedalus said:
    No, I do not and did not think that separation was only good if I found someone else. I had hoped that I would escape a hurtful situation and find peace in independence. Long story to describe how that has gone....
    posted over 3 years ago
    FLChrisNW said:
    A very long story, indeed. Many more Panera trips to come. :)
    posted over 3 years ago
    joyz said:
    Yay for Panera and supportive people. I don't know if peace finds us or we find peace, (which is subject, which object, both?) but we can go with the future perfect "Peace will be found".
    The "no beer slackser" thing has given me a case of the lolz. So well-played, sir.
    posted over 3 years ago
    dedalus said:
    Supportive people are awesome. Supportive + nonjudgmental people are the best.
    posted over 3 years ago
    annex50 said:
    I do not think you will find peace at a bar. Perhaps, you could try to tap into the excitement of meeting new people and trying harder to understand others and their struggles as well. Sometimes, when we truly connect with those that we care about, our story grows. It's not so linear and finite. Live the day with great fervor until you exhaust yourself. Then maybe you can sleep at night.
    posted over 3 years ago

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