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  • When is it better to be sorry than safe? See all answers
    • October 23, 2009 by steph
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    • You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em....
    • I am interpreting this prompt such that "sorry" applies more to regretting a choice or an action, something that affects yourself.

      If you play it safe all the time, you're never going to experience any thing. Sometimes life hurts, but that's how we grow. When you take a chance, it nearly always carries the risk of hurting yourself, but what's the alternative? Playing things safe? Building walls around yourself, never opening up to all a situation has to offer, good or bad? That's no way to experience life. If you're not careful, you might build the walls too high and find yourself all alone, while life goes on all around you.

      Bad experiences suck, they hurt and can make you feel empty and drained. But overcoming that pain, that's what makes you stronger, better. And even if you never get to the full point of overcoming grief, the process still helps you grow. You learn to trust in yourself, and you learn who there is in your life that you can trust in.

      I mean, you don't always need to take risks. I don't mean to promote recklessness or carelessness. But if it's between always taking chances and always playing it safe, I guess I think it's best to go with the former.

      Perhaps I'm just blowing hot air. But I always think you need a point of reference to judge things by. Specifically, it is the bad in your life that makes you able to fully appreciate the good. But if you always play it safe, and never make yourself vulnerable, never take a chance, never even entertain the notion of pain... I don't know. I guess I feel like that's a one way road to an unfulfilling life.

      I suppose the short answer is, I would rather have taken a chance on something, and feel sorry about it than never even attempt to try, for the sake of avoiding future anguish.

       
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