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It's a Fine Line Between Sexy and Slutty

2009-04-14T13:01:42-06:00

Sexy = Victoria's Secret
Slutty = Fredrick's of Hollywood

Sexy = Cosmopolitan spreads
Slutty = Playboy spreads

Sexy = Make-up that enhances your features
Slutty = Make-up that makes you look like a Drag Queen

Sexy = Talking about your ambitions on a first date
Slutty = Talking about your sexual ambitions on a first date

Sexy = Having the top of your lacy black panties peak out from your jeans
Slutty = Having the top of your thong rise 3 inches above your pant-line

Get the idea?

Keeping in Touch While 7600 Miles Apart

2009-04-14T12:56:01-06:00

Summer 2009

We're both extremely busy people so I suspect that FB messaging and email will be our main communication medium. I'm sure we'll be able to Skype every so now and then and be able to get a real-time conversation going. Our relationship is in its early stages so I suppose it can be considered a "romantic relationship" but as far as "making it work," I'm a firm believer that if it works, it works. One shouldn't have to try THAT hard to make a relationship work in it's budding stages. If the chemistry is there, that's all it needs.

2009-04-13T21:43:00-06:00

In the Wild
I am one of those people who thinks Valentine's Day is just another corporate fueled holiday and the best way to celebrate it is to stick it to the man!

I mean really, it has been ingrained into people's (mostly women) brains that if your S.O. does not concoct the most PERFECT and ROMANTIC day ever, they don't really care about you. It doesn't matter that "so-and-so" did "this thing" on "this random day," no. They f-ed up V-Day and how you're going to give them hell for it. Um, really? I wouldn't want to be put in that situation and therefore I should expect it of other people.

V-Day sets up all of these unreal, "fairy tale" expectations that honestly, I could care less for. Hell, if my S.O. came home from work/school and told me that he loves me and we end up ordering a pizza and snuggling on the couch with some beers and a movie, that's just peachy with me.

However, if he really wants to impress me. He won't be taking me out to some expensive restaurant and blow all of his cash on me. I'm not that kind of girl (some are, not me). C'mon, I do not want to be surrounded by other couples who are doing the exact same thing. Take me somewhere remote where we can gaze upon the natural beauty of this earth. (I'm not saying that isn't equally overdone, but it is better than the restaurant environment.) Let's go summit a mountain together. Let's go hike out to a beautiful hot spring and enjoy a bottle of red wine. Let's go horseback riding to a remote plain and watch the sun set over the mountains. See? Equally romantic but away from all the hustle and bustle of the V-Day chaos. (Obviously, this would not be kosher for the chick that hates the wilderness but hey, everyone's entitled to their own opinion.)

The 5 Ingredients to Maintaining a Long-term Relationship

2009-04-13T16:28:36-06:00

All my life I've been in long term (sometimes long distance) relationships. I have been dating since I was 15 years old and I have been single for a total of seven months (I am currently 20). (First bf: 3 years, Second bf: 2 years 2 mo) What does that say about me? Well, two things:

1) I'm one of those insecure chicks that constantly needs to be in a relationships to reaffirm by being or

2) I know what I'm doing and possess the key ingredients to keeping a long term relationship.

So what are these ingredients?

Be Honest
You think this would go without saying but how many guys can attest for a girl who said, "Oh, I don't mind," when in all actuality, she DOES mind? WTF is up with that?

So girls, really, be HONEST. If you're not okay with him dating other people in the early stages of the relationship, SAY SO, because no guy is going to assume otherwise.

Guys, if you're not into us, then say so. (I realize that some of you already do this and girls are crazy so they don't listen, which brings me to the next rule.)

Be Rational
My last relationship lasted 2 years and 2 months. Never once did I give my guy the silent treatment. Why? Because that's RATIONAL. It is rational to ask for some time to cool off after a fight. But it is not rational to give a guy the silent treatment just because he "should know what is bothering me." HA. Guys don't know when they piss you off (unless it's intentional), you have to let them know.

The key to being rational is taking an issue and putting the emotions aside leaving you with the objective things to analyze. Fighting with emotion doesn't get anyone anywhere, but having a discussion with key points and a well-thought out objective does.

Be Romantic
Yes, it is cheesier than hell but once in a while, you have to have a picnic or buy her flowers for no reason. The kind of "first date" environment renews the relationship and keeps it exciting.

Be Chill.
Hang out with each others' friends. Girls, go grab a beer and wings at the local bar with his buds. Dish out on the latest sports stats or simply talk about the last time to scored an awesome goal in a friendly game of soccer. Guys, allow her to take you to a fancy schmancy event and show off how awesome your mingling skills are. The fact that you're able to be (or seem) comfortable in her environment will make her proud.

Be Flexible
No one can know where a relationship is headed right off the bat. Sure, you might have some idea where you'd like it to go, but don't count on it. It takes the fun right out of the now and that what you really should be enjoying. Enjoy your SO's company and quirks, in the NOW because if you don't, you might be missing the entire story.