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- My Country? I don't know if you'll like it, but i LOVE it!
An archipelago boasting of 7,107 islands, the Philippines has wondrous beautiful sights. Divided into three geographical location, we are composed of Luzon, Visayas and Mindanao. Each region boasts great natural resources that's worth a visit.
We Filipinos are proud of our heritage, our rich cultural heritage. As we're once invaded by the Spaniards, American and Japanese, our country is boating a smorgasborg of cultural influences. In the earlier years, we succeeded in maintaining the trading industry with the Chinese and other foreigners.
If you'll visit our place, you are sure to see a number of public jeepney roaming the streets of the town. Our jeepneys are filled with wonderful designs and colorful artworks. Also, we have those pedicabs, some sort of tricycles, and of course with wonderful designs too!
Here, specifically in Manila, you'll see tall buildings boasting corporate places and some department stores or mall. I find it fascinating that in almost every town or city of the Philippines we do have department stores or leisure areas. Indeed, we Filipinos love a good life.
Some places showcases country style houses, some are like any other regular houses in other 3rd world country. Oh, yes, we are still classified under 3rd world countries, but despite of it, we're proud of what we can do, and what our country can offer.
One of the things we Filipinos we are famous of is our being hospitable. It's one the traits we are proud to be associated with. We accept guests like our family members and we take care of them with their stay.
I know that some countries or some people doesn't like us, with all those stories they have heard, I understand their perception. However, I know that we are more than what we are perceived to be. We have so much to be proud of our country and we won't let all those negative feedbacks to ruin our faith and hope to our country.
We may not be the best people on earth, but our hope and faith for our country will keep us striving to live better and someday be at par with all those first world countries.
I guess, you better try to visit our country. It's worth a try.
- This Movie Always Gets to Me
I am not a big fan of romantic movies, but I do watch movies about love story. Huh. Yeah, I am not into those typical romantic movies with boy meets girl kind of story line, with a happily ever after kind of ending. I want something more than those fairy tale stories, I want something real, something more that I can relate with. Oh, well, I guess because I am not living a fairy tale life.
I learned to hate drama movies, not because of anything but because I am such a crybaby. I cry for silly reasons, and watching dramatic movies only triggers my tear ducts. And there's one movie that never fails to make me cry. No, it wasn't really a dramatic movie, it's a love story though they claim it's not.
The movie started on January 8, as Tom met Summer. Yes, it's a story of boy meets girl, and yes, it's not a love story. As according to them.
It's 500 Days of Summer. A one hour and 35 minutes of love story.
Don't be fooled with the title, no it isn't above 500 days of living in a summer season. It's about Tom and Summer. Tom's 500 days with Summer.
2009, when I watched this movie in a DVD. I wasn't able to watched it in big theater since I don't have someone to join me. After watching it, I instantly fell in love with the movie. The movie didn't follow the typical way of story telling, they did a non-chronological way of showing the 500 days. There was this of poignancy and a little of 70's touch in the movie. Naah, I am not sure on that part. I am not good at those description. Forgive me.
The actors portrayed the 2 characters who has different views in life and in love. Tom Hansen as portrayed by Joseph Gordon-Levitt is a believer of love, of fate, of destiny, and of soulmate. He believes that one day he'll find and meet his own The One. And that's what he thought when he met Summer.
Summer Finn, played by Zooey Deschannel, on the other hand doesn't believe in those things. There was this phrase that was told by the narrator that briefly describes her, and which I can relate with, "...she'd only loved two things. The first was her long, dark hair. The second was how easily she could cut it off and feel nothing..."
Working on a boy meets girl concept, Tom met Summer and he fell in love with her. He loves The Smiths, she does too. He's into architecture, and Summer is interested in those stuffs too. They got great things in common, and he started to fully belief that Summer is his soulmate. "The One" he'd been waiting for.
Summer likes Tom too, or as what I assumed. But Summer doesn't believe in love, and she wanted to take things slowly with Tom. The man is confuse. They had everything going on between them, but Summer doesn't want to commit. He doesn't know where he stand. He's in love, but she is not. She doesn't believe in such. How can these two hearts meet? How can destiny work for them?
The movie breaks my heart, but then I've been watching the movie for the nth time. I had the movie saved in my smart phone, and get to watch it on office lunch breaks or on idle time. Broken, I also watch the movie. No, it doesn't lighten me up, it even gives me more heart breaks. I was crying, and I cry with Tom.
I even have the whole soundtrack album save on my laptop and phone too. At times when I want to cry and break my heart, I listen to it too. Masochism? No, plain stupidity.
I don't know if I am on Tom's side or Summer's. I can feel like I am one of them, but whose character, I am not sure. I feel like my story is on the movie, played alternately by both characters.
Tom and Summer's relationship drifted apart. Tom tried to move on, Summer live her life too. Eventually, their roads crossed again, and this give Tom some hope that things will be better this time. I remember seeing the scene whereas his "expectations" is placed on screen side by side with the "reality", as Hero by Regina Spektor plays in the background.
Yes, that scene breaks my heart. I had my own expectations versus reality moments in my life. Those expectations were so perfect, they fit the whole event in my life perfectly, that those expectations looks like reality. But for some reasons, reality became too far from I expected it to be. I guess Tom's failure with his expectations narrates my own experience, and his failure is mine too.
Summer however turned out to be engaged already with someone else. This break Tom's heart. He tried to move on, go on with his life, with his career, with everything he has as Summer move on with her life too. Summer got married and Tom continue with his passion in architecture.
On their favorite spot in a park, Tom and Summer's path crossed again. They had this talk, which breaks my heart too. And let me quote (hope my memory works this time) some of my favorite lines:
Tom: "...You never wanted to be anybody's girlfriend, and now you are somebody's wife."
Summer: "i just, i just woke up one day and I knew what I was never sure of, of you."
Tom: "you know what sucks, realizing that everything you believe in is complete on a bullshit, it sucks.."
Summer: "what do you mean"
Tom: "ah you know, destiny, and soulmates, true love and all that childhood fairy tale now it sucks you were right I should have listened to you.."
Yes, the romantic Tom lost his belief in love, in all those things that makes him the romantic guy. He let go of his ideals in soulmates, destiny and fairy tale love stories. His heartbreak with Summer demoralized him. It break his heart, and he don't think he'll ever learn to believe on it again. This time, Summer believes in destiny and fairy tale.
The table has turned.
Summer: Well, you know, I guess it's 'cause I was sitting in a deli and reading Dorian Gray and a guy comes up to me and asks me about it and... now he's my husband.
Tom: Yeah. And... so?
Summer: So, what if I'd gone to the movies? What if I had gone somewhere else for lunch? What if I'd gotten there 10 minutes later? It was - it was meant to be. And... I just kept thinking... Tom was right.
Summer: Yeah, I did. [laughs] I did. It just wasn't me that you were right about.
Uhuh. Destiny. This thing is still clouds my brain. Is there such thing as destiny? as soulmate? as true love? I do not know, and all I could do is cry with Tom, and believe in love like Summer as the narrator spoke:
" If Tom had learned anything... it was that you can't ascribe great cosmic significance to a simple earthly event. Coincidence. That's all anything ever is. Nothing more than coincidence."
I know, I'll keep on crying again if I'll watch this movie, again.
- Another AHA!
Uhmn.. so here I am again, answering Plinky prompt - One Thing I Learned Recently.
At my age, there's nothing much that I get to learn as new. So, what am I going to share now? Maybe I can talk about some realization I had this evening on my way home from work.
Sitting behind the driver's seat, I just realized one thing:
"There are some people that we try to forget, and then time passes by, and they are nothing but memories. But there are some that no matter how time flies, how much we try to forget them, we cannot just simply take them out of our system, of our life. And maybe, those people are not really meant to be dislodged off from our system, maybe they are meant to keep our life miserable or bearable. Maybe our lives are meant to intertwine."
Oh well, I know something better can be learned than this thought caused by my psychoanalization. I'll try to come up with something better to share some other time.
- The Best Advice I Ever Received (actually, just overheard.)
Sometimes, no matter how confident we are in our abilities, and knowledge, there will always be a chance that we'll be trapped in a situation whereas we'll be forced to deal with people with intimidating skills and intimidating personal backgrounds.
Some people would be too rich, too famous or too intelligent for us to handle.
But, what are we to do? Should we let them intimidate us and make us feel less superior of ourselves?
For those times I am trap in those circumstances, I kept on remembering what I heard my former professor in the University told a student, "Don't let yourself be intimidated by other people, remember that no matter where they came from, no matter what family they belong with, at the end of the day, you're both human who snores when they are tired, and who farts when you're stomach doesn't feel good." The bottom line of it all - we are all the same.
In my present job, dealing with famous, and yes,sometimes intimidating people is inevitable. In a country whereas Tagalog is the native language and the abillity to speak fluent English is a plus factor, some people will try to push their way to you with their great American accent - thinking they can get what they want by trying to intimidate you. But hey no, I don't care with their accent, I hold the position to decide, and no other high falutin words can push me back. We are just the same.
I remember receiving a business call from Mr. Manny Pacquiao. Eventhough he doesn't intimidate people, I still almost stammer. But then, I reminded myself - he punches well, but we're the same, we uses the phone to talk. Luckily, I was able to handle the call well.
Some people hold the names of their University like a badge, a diploma hanging on their neck, and they will try to intimidate you by telling you beforehand where they graduated. I, didn't come from any prestigious, exclusive University, but I am proud to be coming from a State University, and that's my pride against their act of intimidation. I remember always, that we're all the same.
Each day will be a moment to be intimidated, and I know I can't get away from it., however I am not giving anyone the priviledge to take advantage of my weakness.
I hold the power,
I have the upper hand.
They can get what they want, but not by intimidating me.
- If I Could Relive Any Day of My Life
It was the first Monday in June, I was barely 4 feet in height. Quite tall for girls of my age. I was dressed in blue preppy skirt and a white navy collared blouse.
Hiding behind my mother's skirt, the grade school teacher called me, "You may now take your seat."
After 14 years of studies - 6 years in grade school, 4 years in secondary school and 4 years in the University, I would still love to go back to my first day in school.
My first day in grade school.
Seven years old, 4 feet in height, in my preppy uniform. I was so young then, but I can write and read already. I know only few of the children in the class, but mostly by familiar faces only. I was innocent, and ignorant of crucial things in life.
I miss the simplicity of life. The way I sat on the wooden school desk beside some stranger and strange kids. The way I called everyone by simple term, "Bata, bata! (Kid, kid!)". I miss the simple concept of writing lines, curves and alphabets on my school paper. Everything was simple.
I remember standing in front of the class, reciting my name and address with so much nervousness. I was fidgeting; the class laughed. I almost cry in embarassment. It was dooms day.
But no, after 21 years, I am still alive.
If I had known how simple life then is, I should have had laughed with everyone too. I should have had not fidgetted so much that I almost scratch my nails to the edge. I should have had taken the opportunity to say the darnest thing.
No, it's not that I am trying to regret things. It's just I miss the simple things in life, those simple joys and thrills that completes a 7 years old life.
After going through a lot of ups and downs and life threatening experiences, I would still want to throw a coin in a wishing well, and wish for once single day I could go back on that fateful day in June.