• leggygillin
      • hello Mary Kovarovic
      • Username: leggygillin
      • In response to: "What do you do on the side?" Now that I've been growing.... not literally! I do seashell art now. My avatar pic is a wood burning landscape I did a number of years ago. I do have a gallery of art listed in my blog.
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    • On Cheating

      • World's biggest liar

        It is never OK to cheat in my book, ever. Because it isn't just a matter of cheating. It involves lying, disrespect, dishonor. If you cannot win a game or pass a test or stay faithful, then quit the game, fail the test and get out of the relationship. Simple.
        Cheating kills trust so quickly. If you cheat and lie in one area, even just once, you're prone to do it again. You aren't reliable when the chips down and that would always be in the back of my mind. If you tell another woman she's beautiful and cheat, then every word you have told your partner has become a lie. When you are unfaithful it isn't simple cheating, it's lying. You are disrespecting your partner, dishonoring her, allowing your cheating partner to take precedence.
        If you have to cheat to pass that test, do truly think an employer would trust you? Trust is such a fragile, critical part of a relationship, be it business or personal.
        Gaming may seem frivolous but your actions speak how you are in your life. If you think cheating is fine here, what is to stop you from blurring the lines in life? If I knew someone cheated at games, I would have serious doubts when I listened to them.
        Honesty and integrity are crucial personality virtues to me. I don't like cheaters. They rob life.

      • answered by leggygillin on 06/11/2011
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    • First Impressions

      • Some first Impressions

        I never judge a person on their clothing quality or lack. Name brands don't mean a hill of beans to me. Cleanliness does. The same with the body. I like clean smelling people, not someone reeking of cologne around me. First impressions are critical because they will always be there.
        Sometime I make snap decisions about people as soon as I look at them and I go about my business. I know that sounds very cold but having been around people who abuse drugs and alcohol you can recognize the signs very quickly. People like that do not fit in my life. I don't have the patience for it nor the trust for it.
        I read another Plinky where the writer said they looked at the person's eyes. That is very true with me, also. You can tell so much about a person whether they want you to see it or not. Facial expressions and body language speak volumes if you want to listen. Like that writer, when I have ignored my instinct, I've been burned. I am more cautious when I meet new people but I have to admit I think I am far more skeptical, less trusting of others than I have ever been.

      • answered by leggygillin on 06/09/2011
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    • If I Saw Someone Stealing...

      • ...No evil

        I don't think the value of the item is the point. I have looked at the person stealing, saw their needs and what they were taking. I did turn a blind eye. Maybe that was wrong but I felt so bad for the person.
        On the other hand I have seen wise-ass teens stealing donuts and tearing things up in a store, thinking it's a joke. Another time I saw a person taking car equipment. Yes, both were reported.
        I guess it comes down to each case on it's own merit. Theft is wrong but someone who is truly hungry needs to be fed. Why not pay for he has taken and let him be? Some one who is stealing just to be stealing needs to go to jail.
        A clerk miscounts change and the customer hurries out, 'getting one over' on her. Cashiers are held accountable for their money. If they make a mistake, I tell them. I could never understand why a customer gets so huffy if he thinks his change is wrong then so happily steals from a store? Theft is theft. If it smells like a duck, etc, etc..

      • answered by leggygillin on 06/08/2011
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    • On Predicting My Future

      • Hands of Time

        Ten years ago, my family was going through a terrible crisis. To this day, it still affects us. I would have never thought my family would be in that position.
        On the professional side, I had just been promoted to an assistant office manager. I was proud of that and loved my job. I thought I would work for my employer until I retired. That was what I planned, it was my goal. As a small company, there were limits to the climb, but I didn't care. I just loved my job and was very happy.
        Of course my retirement happened sooner than anticipated. I guess I took advantage of my body instead of caring for it so it failed me. It's OK, though. Life goes on. Now I have more time for my art, time to write, time for everything I want to do.
        On the personal side, I have great kids and wonderful grand-kids. God really blessed me with all these lovely babies. All my ups and downs I can deal with. It's all part of the life I have chosen. I can make it a good life, or I can make it miserable. That's the thing with life. We really are responsible for our own happiness. If you don't have it, make it. Everything in life has it finer points. It's up to us to find them.
        As for the future....God teaches us to live for today. You can't live with guilt for yesterday or worry about tomorrow. That takes away from today. All we can do is be the best person God wants us to be. By taking care of today, I am taking care of tomorrow. I should still be in my home, but if I'm not, I'll deal with whatever life has given me.

      • answered by leggygillin on 06/05/2011
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    • The Most Dangerous Thing I've Done for Fun

      • Dum Dum Head: 73/365

        I'm not sure I did it for fun. Well alright it was a ton of fun at that moment. Thinking in my normal, rational way I would have never been so stupid. AND, right off the top, let me add, I would never...NEVER...do it again. I would string my kids up if I ever heard of them doing something so foolish.
        After we had moved here twenty plus years ago, I went through a stupid stage, I guess you could say. Normally I didn't drink or get drunk. Taking risks has not a part of my vocabulary purely because I look for all possible consequences before committing to any action. Yes, that makes me very boring. My family tells me all the time I am boring. But for one brief, shining moment, I was foolishly brave. That alcohol sure dumbs you down!
        I had gone out with family on this particular Saturday night. I was the most sober but that wasn't saying much. Three of us sat in the front of the pick-up, one sat in the bed of the truck. The back window did not open.
        The other two decided they wanted another beer. I piped up and said I can play Dukes of Hazard. Well, the bet was on after that. We were driving down the highway at fifty miles per hour. They bet I couldn't climb out the door, get a beer and get back in the truck. Can we spell stupid?
        Sometimes I relive those incredibly foolish (exhilarating) moments and I cannot believe I did it.
        I slid up and sat in the door window for a moment to allow myself time to find my brain. No, I must have left my brain at the bar. Don't ask me how I managed but I climbed out in to the bed of the truck got the beer and climbed back in. My heart was going ninety to nothing. I had this huge excited sense of accomplishment. I was pumped. They were shocked that I did it. I was astounded, to say the least.
        All the adrenaline sobered me up very quickly. Of course then my brain kicks in. A little late, I would say. I cannot believe I did that. I can't even blame my folly on my youth because I was in my mid-thirties.

      • answered by leggygillin on 06/02/2011
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