• not_his_mom2
      • hello Phoebe Ogg
      • Username: not_his_mom2
      • In response to: "Who are you?" Really who are any of us? Do you compare yourself to someone else to answer that question? I have prissy tendencies, but am painfully honest, maybe more than I should be...
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    • A Fortunate Failure

      • My failure to be self centered for maybe the first time in my life turned out to be the blessing of all time for me. I let go, I opened my heart, soul, and home to someone in need of all of those things, along with all the parenting skills and patience I could muster......my teen foster son came, with his whirlwind of problems and hangups, and turned our lives upside down, brought us what we thought at the time was misery and despair, which in the end turned out to be my biggest blessing. He has shown me his dysfunction, his addictions and his lonliness and longing to be with his family, but at the same time learned to trust me and my decisions for his life. Although not always to his liking, he has learned also to realize my boundaries were not there to hurt him, but in fact keep him safe until he is old enough and mature enough to do this for himself. So failing to think of myself has been my greatest undoing...I highly recommend it.

      • answered by not_his_mom2 on 03/02/2011
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    • My Favorite Place to Drive

      • Here it is...Peace


        Beautiful Ocean Blues

        Mmmm, my favorite place to drive is this little seaside cliff in Laguna Beach, don't even know the name of the street, but there is a restaurant called 5 Crowns at the beginning of the street...you drive down this narrow street, hoping to find a place to park, and you come out of the shadows of the homes along the way to the end where the whole sky and ocean open up in front of you. You are standing out on the end and you can't see anything but ocean out of your peripherial vision...it is just magical. This is the place I go to find peace and find balance...and just to be. All I see is the vast horizon in front of me with that beautiful lonely ocean stretched out in front of me...that is my favorite place...and even though I can't get there now since I live states away, I go there in my mind often!

      • answered by not_his_mom2 on 03/02/2011
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    • Life's Little Awkward Moments: Dating

      • It's been a long time since I had that problem...but my favorite thing is to be blunt and laugh...and say "don't you hate that?" That usually breaks the ice and the silence...then maybe reach over and give them a little kiss...awe sweet

      • answered by not_his_mom2 on 10/01/2010
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    • What I'd Say to My 16-Year-Old Self

      • Don't do it! In a year, you will get so fed up with your life and the expectations others have for your life that you will quit dancing and choreography, and you will meet up with an old friend. He will tell you a sob story, he will make you do things you never would have dreamed of doing, and you will marry him. Soon after that you will find out he has cheated from day one and used drugs you had no idea he was doing...because you were so caught up with being hurt by others, and on a self destructive path, you wouldn't listen to that small voice inside of you that was telling you the right things to do...
        You end up having a baby for all the wrong reasons, although she is the better part of you and always will be, she is still a child of divorce...which will scar her and jade her own life.
        Fight for what YOU want in your life, take the right chances, travel and do what you know you were born to do.
        But now that all of that happened or didn't, I can't conceive of my life any other way...I am now blissfully happy, and content with my accomplishments. And yes, she turned out perfect and well adjusted because I was strong enough to leave her father when I found out about the alternate life he was leading...so all in all, some good choices, some not so good ones, but here we are...Happy, Thanks to God.

      • answered by not_his_mom2 on 08/26/2010
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