• ryoko861
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      • Username: ryoko861
      • In response to: "Who are you?" I'm a SAHM with two older boys and nothing else better to do. Lots of things go on in my brain, so I like to share them with people whether they like it or not.
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    • Advice I Wish I Received Earlier

      • I was very naive. A late bloomer you could say. Spontaneous. Compulsive. Stupid.

        I did very little thinking and did lots of partying. I just sort of went where life took me. No focus. No goals.

        I only went to 4 months of college.

        I married young (just turned 22)

        I had kids four years later after marriage.

        Looking back I SO wish I had someone (like "Mike", my friend's brother who I mentioned in another post) to say, whoa, slow down. I wish someone would have said "hey, you're doing good in communications, why not stay in it? Believe me you're going to be glad you did." It would have helped if I had someone to help me focus.

        Same with marriage. Anyone who knew me would have told me "Listen, you're a free spirit. Think about this. Do you really want to get tied down? Take my advice, RUN!" There were tell tale signs that maybe marriage wasn't the way to go for me. I sometimes wonder if I got married for the sake of getting out of my house and this was someone who could take care of me.

        We all have regrets and sometimes over look advice that people give us anyway. It's what's going on at that moment that we make a decision. Most of us act on impulse. I should have listened to my instincts. That's a lesson I've learned through out life.

      • answered by ryoko861 on 12/13/2011
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    • When Can I Leave?

      • England 2010

        From my other posts it's pretty obvious where I would go.

        England beckons me.

        As for the holder of the other plane ticket?

        My best friend and I have been friends since 9th grade. Her brother (we'll call him "Mike") is 12 years older than us. So he was basically out of the house by the time she and I became friends. We visited him once at his apartment that was about 1 hour away. I barely remember the day. My friend is very musically talented and play the keyboards as does her brother. So we sat at the keyboards and they played tunes and I managed to squeak out some singing (I sang better then than I do now).

        I think that may have been the first and only time I ever met him. He was married with kids when my friend and I graduated high school. My friend would occasionally keep me updated on him and through out the years he had some bad times with marriages and kids. He was always a good hearted person and it always seemed wrong that someone like him was having such a shit life.

        Fast forward to last year.

        For some reason my friends brother was living in NYC and kept asking for her to come out to see him. She asked me if I would like to go. Sure, why not?

        When I got to Mike's apt in the city, I just instantly felt like I've known him my whole life. I had already friended him on Facebook and we bantered back and forth naturally.

        I'm finding that I could very easily fall in love with him. We've had some deep conversations. He also shares his love of England and he's told me he would love to take me there and show me around. He's also said he would love to take me to France.

        So, when can I get my tickets?

      • answered by ryoko861 on 12/13/2011
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    • If I Could Say Anything without Consequence

      • I do love you. Really. But I can't stay here anymore. I'm stifled. I need to go and explore, by myself. I've been confined to this life for so long I'm stagnant. I look back on my years and I'm not happy with my accomplishments. I've done nothing with my life. And I found something I want to do before I get too old to do it. And I'm sorry you're not included. This is something I have to do on my own. I need to grow up and not be so dependent. I need to prove to myself that I can do it on my own. I need some confidence.

        I know your hurt and upset. I know you'll be lonely. You'll go back to being depressed and cry. But I can't be your nurse/keeper/lover/wife all the time. You're controlling me and I don't like it. How dare you act like a child and whimper when I say I want to go.

        I may not come back once I'm where I'm going. It'll be tough, stressful, hard. But I think I can establish myself. I'll be forced to speak up and ask for what I need. And I may never find what I'm looking for but knowing I'm living in the same place and trodding upon the same soil as my dream will be enough for me to be happy.

        All I can say is toughen up. You're not a lowly human. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Get out there and meet people. I wasn't the first, I won't be the last. Cop an attitude.

      • answered by ryoko861 on 09/15/2011
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    • Flying the Friendly Skies

      • British Airways

        I haven't done a lot in my life. I will admit sailing is something that alot of people don't normally do or may never do. I'm privileged in that respect to be able to that. As much as I love the water, I've never water skiied or parasailed.

        The one thing I've never done is flown in an airplane. My parents weren't travelers. My dad occasionally flew for his company for business and they once flew to New Hampshire to check out a new location that my dad's company was moving to. But we never went any further than Pennsylvania every weekend. Why travel when we had our own vacation home on a lake?

        Back then, flying the friendly skies was easy. There was no TSA. No real TSA at least. You were allowed to bring your shampoo and toothbrush on board. There still were lines and crowds, but it just wasn't as stressful.

        Now you have to have umteen documents just to get a passport. Though, obtaining tickets for a flight is as easy as scanning your credit card. Getting through customs and security? That's the problem.

        Being that I've NEVER done any traveling abroad, I have NO clue how to go about it. Then there's the issue of boarding the plane. Of course, the first place I choose to travel to is about 7 hours away, 3600 miles. I'm not sure I'll be able to handle the tight quarters and confinement of a plane cabin. I don't have claustrophobia, but to be unable to move around for 7 hours may be a bit tricky.

        I try not to think about it right now since I'm not scheduled to do any flying in any planes in the immediate future. I'll sweat it out when the time comes. Hopefully soon.

      • answered by ryoko861 on 09/15/2011
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