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- hello joan okon
- Username: worthyoflove
- In response to: "What do you do on the side?" I learn all types of dances. Anything from waltzing to salsa, to contra dancing.
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worthyoflove's latest answers
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- It's All In A Name
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My legal name is not the name I was given at birth. My name was changed somewhat by accident before I began first grade. When my parents found out they were pregnant with me, they decided that they wanted to renew their commitment to each other and their relationship. My birth was to be a new beginning for them; and this wasn't surprising because the whole world was on the brink of new beginnings in 1960. So, Mom and Dad wanted this commitment to be reflected in my name; my name was to be a combination of both their names. The J represented the first initial of my father's name, Jasper: and the A represented the first initial of my mother's name, Arlevia.
I was named Jo-Anne at birth, and my father wanted the family to call me Jo. When they brought me home from the hospital, he told my brothers and sisters to always look after me and take care of me because I was the youngest. This admonition proved to be a foreshadowing because my parents recommitment to each other proved to be short-lived; my father died three years after I was born. Maybe it was despondency that caused my mother to ignore having the mistake on my birth certificate changed when she received it from the state of Mississippi. The state left out the hyphen, the capital A, and the second n in my name, thus making Jo-Anne to become Joan. When in first grade, my teacher asked me what I wished to be called, I told her Joan. I don't know why I did that but I did. What's in a name? A lot. The two names mean totally different things; Jo-Anne means wild, while Joan means Gift of God. Throughout my life I have wrestled with am I Joan or Jo-Anne; and for the most part, I believe I am Joan. When I am restless and searching for meaning in everything, I am Jo-Anne. The endless need for adventure in me is Jo-Anne.
When I seek God for direction in my life down to the minor detail, I am Joan. When I give up my own desires or wants for the sake of someone else or when I seek to heal those who are hurting; I am Joan. I wouldn't take anything for the name change I received early in life. God changed my name because he knew a character change would take place at some point in my life. I would not change my name because my parents put a lot of thought into deciding my name.
To this day, the only people who call me Jo-Anne are my immediate family members. I thank God for naming me, for calling me, for setting the path of my life in motion early and for being with me no matter which name I may at any time embrace.
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- It Is All In A Name
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My legal name is not the name I was given at birth. My name was changed
by accident when I entered first grade. At the time of my birth my parents were going through a rebirth of their commitment to one another and of making their relationship better. My name was supposed to be a combination of both their names to signify their renewal of their love to one another. I was named Jo-Anne,with the J representing the first initial of my father's name, Jasper, and the A, representing the first letter of my mother's name Arlevia. Even though my name was changed when I began first grade, the letters representing my father's and mother's name remained.
The renewal of my parents' devotion to each other was to be short-lived because my father died only three years after I was born. Maybe my mother's despondency was the reason she never bothered to correct the mistake made on my birth certificate when she received it from the state capitol once I began school. The state left off the hyphen, the capital A and the second n in my first name. When I started school the teacher saw my birth certificate and called me Joan, instead of Jo-Anne. Being that I was very young, I didn't correct her, and at one point she asked me if I preferred being called Joan or Jo-Anne. I told her I preferred Joan. I don't know why I preferred it, but that is what I said. To this day, I am called Joan by everyone except my family. I am still Jo-Anne or Jo to my immediate family members.
What is in a name? A whole lot. The two names mean very different things. Jo-Anne means wild and the name Joan means Gift -of God. Throughout my life I have had to wrestle at various times with am I Joan or am I Jo-Anne. There is a lot of me that has elements of Jo-Anne; but I can say for the most part I am Joan. When I am adventurous and carefree, flitting from one thing to another, I am Jo-Anne. When I am restless and searching for meaning in everything, I am Jo-Anne. When I have my mind set firmly on what needs to be done, when I pray to God for every direction in my life, when I put the needs of others before the my own desires or wants, when I look to heal those who are hurting; I am Joan.
I would not rename myself, because I believe a lot of thought was put into my parents naming me; but I also believe God knew my name would be changed. I feel that God ultimately gave me my name because he knew that a character change would take place somewhere in my life. A name change, a character change...I wouldn't replace anything for the character change that took place in my life when God saved me from my sins, put his Spirit in me and caused me to walk in newness of life. Thank God for his gift, thank God that I became a gift.
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- Who are you?
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Definitely the outgoing performer.
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- Your time to shine
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I am a bit of both, it depends on the situation and my mood. Also what is going on in my life at the time.
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- Landscape
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When I gaze out my windows I look at the trees first, then I look at the larger forest. I happen to live surrounded by woods and as a child I lived in an area surrounded by woods. Even then I would always focus on individual trees then look at the whole woods, or forest. When hiking, I look at the details first, because there is always something that catches my attention first before looking at the larger landscape. I don't know if this is a plus or a minus or maybe it is just the way I view life. Maybe it is the way that I think or the way I relate to others.
